"People don’t know how to grieve in community unless they’ve already lost someone they loved like that."
I have found this to be 100% true. The people who cared for me the best when my mom died were the people who had lost their own mothers. I have a hard time wrapping my head around how to capture that lesson on paper for people who have not lived it. It's a noble aspiration!
I try and try and try. It’s like a need I have to be able to communicate it appropriately and fully and I’m not there yet - but I’m not done trying either. I’ve also found that the people who have loved me back to life are people who lost babies too - no matter what age or stage or how. People who’ve lost what you’ve lost have felt the most similar things possible - and that’s how I keep reframing my chosen language. Thank you for sharing your experience and I look forward to reading as you write ❤️
"People don’t know how to grieve in community unless they’ve already lost someone they loved like that."
I have found this to be 100% true. The people who cared for me the best when my mom died were the people who had lost their own mothers. I have a hard time wrapping my head around how to capture that lesson on paper for people who have not lived it. It's a noble aspiration!
I try and try and try. It’s like a need I have to be able to communicate it appropriately and fully and I’m not there yet - but I’m not done trying either. I’ve also found that the people who have loved me back to life are people who lost babies too - no matter what age or stage or how. People who’ve lost what you’ve lost have felt the most similar things possible - and that’s how I keep reframing my chosen language. Thank you for sharing your experience and I look forward to reading as you write ❤️